Enneagram – Type STRENGTHS (Part 4a)

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STRUCTURE of PERSONALITY
Claudio Naranjo has united several theories, contrasting Essence to Personality (the conditional Self/lesser mind TO the Real Being/Higher Mind). This chart shows his variation of Ichazo & Gurdjieff’s view of the human psyche, made up of five centers, with the addition of two higher centers of the ‘awakened’ individual.

● It’s based on the current view of optimal mental health that the outer expressions of Personality do not represent the True Self within, but are motivated by a sense of deficiency – the passions/drives repressing, contaminating & replacing core instincts. The Bound (lower) parts include the Enneagram’s Triad of Instincts:
— Self-Preservation, for personal survival
— Sexual, for intimate one-to-one connection
— Social, for connection to the larger world. More in future posts. (READ……)

ESSENCE:  Higher Mind drives the automatic orientation toward our specific qualities of awareness – not mediated by every-day thinking.
The Virtues are automatic bodily responses – not directed by personal likes or dislikes.

Although higher mental awareness is different from its counterparts in the Personality, it’s easy to mistakenly assume we are in our Essence when we – think humble thoughts (4s), force ourselves to be brave (6s), feel we’ve been of ‘great service’ (2s)….. These reactions are only indirectly related to being open, undefended & attuned to the environment & other people. Fortunately, each type has the unconscious drive to identify AND the conscious ability to outgrow ‘the trance of type’.

LIBERATION & Presence* (being fully awake)
2 = Humility. By Disinterestedness we can express Altruism
3 = Integrity. By Self-acceptance we gain Genuineness
4 = Equanimity. By Self-renewal we achieve Creativity

5 = Generosity. By Understanding we experience Discovery
6 = Courage. By Self-Affirmation we gain Courage
7 = Sobriety. By Assimilation we experience Gratitude

8 = Subtlety. By Self-restraint we can express Magnanimity
9 = Engagement. By Self-possession we find Fulfillment
1 = Serenity. By Discernment we gain Tolerance

*Presence – the opposite of being trapped in our Enneagram style – when we’re controlled by a younger part of ourselves, habitually acting out of the past as a reflex. When we’re not truly awake to current experiences, our judgments are flawed & our actions inappropriate. Being Present is a spiritual process, & while it’s not easy, it is a crucial requirement for a full life.

Overviews – Holy Ideas are the essential qualities of Reality.
Enn TRIADS + holy IdeasThe left-hand chart shows Universal Reality coordinated with the Enneagram’s Heart, Head, Body.  enn - holy-ideas 2 TRIADS
Use the right -hand chart as the model for the #1-9  diagrams that follow. (All created by P.Ferrieux)

HOLY IDEAS & VIRTUE (STRENGTHS)
#1 VIRTUE: Serenity is the recognition that Reality is inherently perfect. As part of that reality, we are already ‘perfect’ so we can be open & accept the conditions that we are working with, trusting that whatever wisdom we may need will be available in the moment

PERFECTIONISTS are fair, honest, honorable, improvement-oriented, noble, responsible, want equality with a shared purpose and values, can be morally heroic
— They really want to be good people & make the world a better place, to realize all their potentials & help others actualize theirs
— They value/are attracted to Goodness & right-ness

Holy PERFECTION points to the more universal sense of perfection , which we can only
uncover in small doses. I see that my purpose is not to achieve some transcendental level but to deal with the imperfect world with acceptance. Everything is already as it should be, so when I’m in “here and now” the moment is always perfect. I can trust the process & bring my support to every situation with compassion.

HIGHER MIND: True Perfection isenn - holy-ideas 1
a balance of positive & negative elements blending together at every moment. Any perfect relationship, event or product has to go through stages, including occasional bad risks or bad timing. So – 1s can benefit by accepting that what can seem like terrible mistakes are connected to an ultimately correct outcome. Their only responsibility is doing the best job they can at any given time

NEXT: Type VIRTUES (Part 4b)

Enneagram – Type STRENGTHS (Part 3)

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so do my Gifts from out of me

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REMINDER:  In this context –
EGO = FALSE SELFNOT the same as a HEALTHY ego (Also read….)

OVERVIEWFall from Higher Essence Qualities to Ego Distortions
Oscar Ichazo made a connection between the 10 spheres of Kabbala’s Tree of Life, & the Enneagram symbol. The Tree’s first sphere, Keter, is reserved for the Messiah, leaving 9 others for humans, suggesting 9 kinds of souls as emanations or facets of the Divine Unity.  (Chart, MORE…)
● While everyone has the capacity to embody all of the Holy Ideas and Virtues, one pair of them is central to the soul’s identity, so their loss is felt acutely, & the person’s ego (conscious False Self) become totally preoccupied with recreating it, although in futile, self-defeating ways

● Based part on this, Ichazo created a hierarchy of expressions:
9 HOLY IDEAS holy ideas(Part 1) the objective, experiential understanding of higher Truth. Their loss or absence generates specific delusions /fixations, the underlying Toxic Rules of our ego-driven lives. Each delusion forms the center of a psychological complex, which the core of that particular fixation.
#2 & 7 POORNAM = Fulfillment (To Read about each IDEA, scroll down….)

VIRTUES
Based on the Holy Ideas, the Virtues are the natural expression of the awakened heart – the unified, expansive qualities humans experience when we are abiding in Essence, our True Self. AND they can not be ‘practiced’ or claimed as personal achievements. While our ego-self is most preoccupied with recreating it, doing so would only be a narcissistic self-aggrandizement for the ego – the very opposite of a Virtuous state.
They are each type’s antidote to its Passion – pointing to our STRENGTHS – so as we “Let-go-&-let-God”, accepting what is already waiting in us to emerge, our specific Virtue begins to express itself in our daily life. They are not simply ‘their own reward’ but expressions of Grace & a method of transformation*.

*Transformation can be understood as a conversion of energy: shifting from the narrowness & futility of our Vice to our Virtue. It is not easy to do, since out Type is hardwired & a life-time of doing things a certain way are hard to soften & dissolve. Shifting this energy takes time, along with great desire & determination, persistent effort & a willingness to look deep inside ourselves. Repetition of new habits & patterns create new neural pathways that, over time, allow us to catch our automatic responses before they get going. This makes it possible to choose a new way of responding to PPT (people-places-things).

EGO-FIXATIONSenn PROGGRESS
As a person loses Awareness & Presence of the Holy Idea, we fall away from Essence into the trance of the outer personality – an ego delusion about self or reality. But once the True Nature is restored  we can see through the particular delusions of our type. Again, our underlying Truth is antidote to the ego-fixation when we want to restore the balance & freedom of our personal Holy Idea

PASSIONS

They represent the underlying characteristic emotional response to reality created by the loss of contact with our Essential nature the Virtue. The underlying hurt, shame & grief this loss entails are enormous, so our ego (defended Self) is compelled to come up with its particular way of emotionally coping with the loss, altho misguided & ineffective.
— It can also be thought of as our untamed animal nature before it’s transformed by contact from higher influences—an awareness and Grace. Together with the ego-fixation, these represent the ways that spiritual qualities become contracted into ego states

INSTINCTS
Our Instinctual Self is a primal aspect of personality, & our dominant one insures our fundamental survival in the physical world, but in so doing can block the way to growth. The Enneagram’s 3 instincts are an anchoring counter balance to the higher spiritual Essential Self, rooting us in the dualistic (good-bad) defended self, which ‘forces’ us to distort & habitually overuse our survival strategies.
● They are considered the way we forget our connection to the Divine. Losing our Essence-center distorts our Thinking, Feeling & Doing (TEA). Spiritual / emotional growth comes from being able to balance, release & transform our instinctual nature into it’s higher opposite.

NOTE that the strengths and weaknesses of each type are two sides of the one coin. There is NO point in wanting to change to another type, since that would just mean swapping one set of problems for another.

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Enneagram – Type STRENGTHS (Part 2)

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in the castle of my identity

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REMINDER: In this context – EGO = FALSE SELF
NOT the same as a HEALTHY ego
(also read….)

To appreciate the POSITIVES of our Type, it helps to put the work of the Enneagram in context.
Chasing ‘healthiness’ is not the main goal of the Enneagram – but rather to become aware of our unique Role in the larger scheme of life, & experience how it plays out in every-day experience. Our fixation behavior – the acting out of the Defect – is Ego trying to hang on to its particular corner of Reality. EXP: #5: “I must fill the unfillable hole of not-knowing”.enn HIGHER OCTAVE

● Yet our unconscious pull toward Essence, with its way of higher thinking & feeling, suggests that each Number represents an archetypal energy pattern, a Higher Octave, self-aware of the deeper characteristics of Reality. This awareness can increase self-knowledge & a deeper connection to Spirit.

● When our focus is on being less & less attached to our usual (defensive) way of functioning, it naturally results in healing the split between parts of ourselves, between ourselves & others, & between us & our Higher Power. Transpersonal* experiences allow us to see ourselves as we are meant to be – in our current state, but moving toward being whole.
*Transpersonal means growing beyond narrow or personal needs, from “experiences in which the sense of self-identity extends beyond (trans) the individual, to encompass wider aspects of humankind, life, psyche or cosmos”. (Shakti – 10/16/05)

● The combination of the 9 Types make up a total Microcosm of the human viewpoint. The movement toward Presence (the ‘work’ is to become awake to a Higher Truth) starts at the Mechanical / Automatic way of functioning on the right side – thru #1-the way of the body, #2-the way of love & #4-the way of power, which need to be learned before moving up the left side. Growth proceeds around the Inner Points via the ‘spiritual’ octave Do-Re-Mi-Fa-Sol-La-Ti-Do, toward full Essence /Consciousness (#9), as taught by Gurdjieff.    MORE….. 

being/grace/mercy● The universal principles – Being, Grace, Mercy – also used in Enneagram study,  are divine forces which drive the engine of the universe & function according to spiritual laws in every octave, regardless of ones ‘developmental level’. Cosmic consciousness diversifies naturally into personality types (1-9) according to these principles, as:     Materiality, Desire, Conscious Labor, Power, Being, Intentional Suffering, Purification, Knowing, Essence.  (MORE…)

● As energy circulates around any octave, it is expressed by specific characteristics, depending on its proximity to the Divine. Each octave is a circulatory system with a set enn affirm deny reconciieof specific demands placed on it. These give some basic insight into the nature of Holy Affirming, Holy Denying & Holy Reconciling forces.
PINK = closest to the divine, (“do”, the absolute) are material expressions on the  right & wisdom, on the left.
GREEN = represents the heart, the mediating zone between the most holy at the top – and -
BLUE = manifestations of intelligence and awareness, being furthest from the divine, at bottom. (MORE….)

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Enneagram – Type STRENGTHS (Part 1)

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my special strengths & talents!

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CORE qualities = our GIFT
● The flip side of each Type’s ‘defect’ is the characteristic which allows us to self-actualize – our Virtue / Strength. These exist in immature form when we’re born, & are supposed to mature over the course of a lifetime (like an acorn), but can only do so IF planted in good soil – ie. a safe, loving family.
> If Nurtured, the Strength will allow us to grow into something grand
> If Hindered – it will be used incorrectly, to everyone’s detriment.
We know that a damaging childhood environment stunts the healthy development of our specific core quality – so it doesn’t turn into a mighty oak – which is what happens to most ACoAs – before Recovery. SO an essential part of our process is to find healthy people-places-things (PPT) that help us undo the damage & allow our precious acorn to RE-grow correctly. “It’s never too late to have a happy childhood” – NOW.

● The reverse of the “defects” are the 7 Heavenly Virtues:
Charity, Faith, Fortitude, Hope, Justice, Prudence, Temperance (+ 2)
The coordinating Enneagram Strengths are:
(#1 – #9) : Serenity, Humility, Truthfulness, Equanimity, Detachment, Courage, Sobriety, Innocence, Action
— These positive qualities can also be used as PROCESS*, starting at #9, which represents “The Whole” – for planning a trip, making a meal, running a company, pursuing our Recovery…(*future post)

● To find our Type, we start with the exaggerated expression of the self – the defect – & trace it back to its original state. Our harmful ‘Habits of Mind’ (CDs) come from over-using /mis-using the Strengths, which are our most natural positive tendency – what we’re best at & our fundamental way of approaching the world. Therefore, the positive quality hidden in the flaw is our GIFT, with both the characteristics of Divinity & of human personality, which we bring into the world to share with others.
EXP: 2s love to help people, but damage turns it into co-dependence.
Healthy 1s like things to be done right, but damage turns it into judgmental perfectionism. Healthy 5s love to be quiet & study, but damage turns it into isolation or being pedantic (a know-it-all) …..

VALUES
● In “Types of Men” (1928), Eduard Spranger wrote that people are best understood through the study of their values. In the 1960’s Gordon Allport, father of Personality Psychology, agreed that personal values are the basis of our philosophy of life. OUR:
Vulnerabilities come from what caused our essence to be distortedValues vs Vulnerability
Values come from what each Type finds most important & deeply wants

● Another way of saying all this is: At the heart of each person’s adaptation to the world are inborn aptitudes & abilities, present as potentialities in our core self. These energizing talents form our values, which we hold dear, influencing our motivations & perspectives on life. They orient & focus our vision – identifying what’s important to us, what to organize our life around, what to live for. While we can appreciate & express something of all the 9 qualities, temperamentally we favor a specific one which guides our attitudes, behaviors, emotions, energies & perceptions – expressions of our Essence.

a. From a spiritual point of view, we are told that human being were made in the image of God (Genesis 1:27), ie. God’s character & attributes reflected in us, such as compassion, rationality, love, hatred, anger, mercy…..
b. From a psychological view, human nature shows up in differing points of view & their accompanying ways of experiencing, evaluating, perceiving, understanding & responding to the world.

The “Primal Catastrophe”
Unfortunately most people lose touch with our specific Essence early in life. The Defect of our type is formed in response to the primal catastrophe of our childhood – the loss of connection to the Divine. In Christian terms, we’re born separated from God by our sin-nature, forgetting our birthright as children of God. In reaction, humans develop 9 different (ineffective) strategies to try reconnecting with Spirit & our deepest self.
holy ideas
● The Virtues/ Strengths identify the way to reconnect to Essence, out-growths of the spiritual insights called Holy Ideas (Holy = objective spiritual reality, expressed in the higher, essential qualities of the human mind). Since our Type’s Ego Desire is a mix of divine yearning & ego questing – in spite of the distortions – ‘personality’ has a sacred impulse at its core.

Ego vs. Essence ?
Essence = Our True Self, originating at birth. It’s different for each Type, & depends on the basic flavor of True Nature which each Number is most sensitive to, based on one’s Holy Idea. When we’re in touch with it, we feel an all-encompassing sense of aliveness, connection & well-being.

Ego: Not the Healthy Self from Psychology, but rather our False Self, the
‘personality’ with all its illusions, defenses & hidden features, which is only a reflection or imitation of our individual True Reality.
— It’s not accurate to think in B & W terms: ‘negative’ ego/ personality being an extreme opposite of ‘positive’ Essence, because humans are on an ego/Essence continuum all the time. Being aware of, understanding & working with both aspects are needed for our growth.
A.F. Almaas reminds us in his book Diamond Heart Book Four: Indestructible Innocence: “The personality is not something that needs to die or be thrown away…. but rather to be developed over time, to be refined & integrated with the sense of Being-ness” (p. 69).

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Enneagram – Type ‘DEFECTS‘ (Part 3c)

Vices 3cI JUST WANT EVERYTHING TO BE OK
so I don’t have do work on myself

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TYPE 7 – The ENTHUSIAST (also 6w7 & 8w7, somewhat)
FEAR : of being deprived and trapped in pain, so they avoid dedicating themselves to a person or situation, over-stimulate themselves & always live in the future
INTERNAL Story: “I must always be excited”

WEAKNESS : Reject any hint of seeing or admitting to the serious & painful sides of life – optimism is the ONLY option. Insist on putting off committing to anything, never ‘sitting still’
DEFENSIVE PATTERN: 7s ‘rationalize’ away uncomfortable experiences by re-framing issues as ‘not a problem’, or denying responsibility for their part in it. They avoid suffering & hang on to a self-image of being OK.
HIDE from others: “I’m not as happy as I appear to be.”
Gluttony / greed causes 7s to use their charm, humor & liveliness to ensure they’ll always have more than enough of the good things in life. They struggle to hold the facade of happiness & fun, while also feeling anxiety, doubt, disappointment & sadness – like everyone else

PROJECTION: 7s avoid pain & suffering, they project these elements out onto to others, who are experienced as being boring, dull, joyless, modest, negative, overly serious, pessimistic, restricted & unimaginative. 7s think it’s up to them to make everything OK, make others happy & envision an optimistic future, see the good in things, & give others something to laugh about

MANIPULATE by: distracting & entertaining others & being upbeat – so they can get their way, insisting that others meet their demands for pleasant stimulation & satisfaction
Create CONFLICT by: being demanding, distracted, escapist, excessive,
impatient, irresponsible, over-extended, restless, scattered, thrill-seeking

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TYPE 8 – The CHALLENGER (also 7w8 & 9w8, somewhat)
FEAR: of being harmed and controlled, & so are aggressively dominant, forcing their agenda and desires on others
INTERNAL Story: “I must always be powerful”

WEAKNESS : Are resentful and angry if they feel in any way defenseless, or believe someone is out to get them / take advantage. Insist on always being in charge
DEFENSIVE PATTERN: 8s use ‘denial’ to avoid vulnerability by re-directing energy by strength of will & controlling their environment, to maintain a self-image of being strong

HIDE from others: “I’m not as powerful or in control as I appear to be.” Lust / craving causes 8s to seek power, or at least the appearance of it. They believe they need to run everything, that without power & respect – from everyone – they won’t be able to protect themselves by having an impact on their environment

PROJECTION: 8s avoid any form of weakness, which they then project out onto others, who are experienced as ambivalent, bleeding hearts, naive, needy, overly dependent, phony, sentimental, unfair, weak. So it’s up to 8s to right all injustice, give others a dose of reality, protect & toughen others up

MANIPULATE by: throwing their weight around, bluff, make big gestures, dominate – demanding that others do as they say
Create CONFLICT by: being bad-tempered, blunt, confrontational, cynical, defiant, domineering, forceful, rageful, vengeful, willful

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TYPE 9 – The PEACEMAKER (also 8w9 & 1w9, somewhat)
FEAR: of loss of love and being abandoned, so they avoid being assertive, expressing their ideas or taking self-directed action
INTERNAL Story: “I must always be peaceful,”

WEAKNESS : Ignore things that need their attention – completely, or procrastinate until the last-minute. Insist on not noticing problematic issues and on staying neutral in unpleasant interactions with others
DEFENSIVE PATTERN: 9s use ‘narcotization’ to avoid conflict & maintain a self-image of being comfortable or harmonious. They get lulled into an emotional coma, or deadened to uncomfortable reality by adjusting / molding themselves to fit other people’s desires or demands​

HIDE from others: “I’m not as agreeable as I appear to be.”
Indifference keeps 9s from voicing any disagreement. They take the easy way out, avoiding discussion rather than face dissension. They hide their own desires, afraid of being disliked if they make too many (any) demands, or if their needs are different than those around them

PROJECTION: 9s avoid disagreements & conflict, so they project their own discomfort & anxiety out onto others, who are experienced as aggressive, conflicted, demanding, excluding, frantic, inconsistent and pushy. 9s think it’s up to them to pacify the world, bring everyone together, calm them down & make others lower their expectations.
Also, they avoid their own plans & desires, & then project that others
ignore them, don’t take them seriously & consider their plans & dreams unimportant

MANIPULATE by: ‘opting out’, resisting others, being indecisive or inattentive, & passive-aggressive
Create CONFLICT by: being complacent, emotionally unavailable, ineffectual, resigned, stubborn, unaware of their own anger, unrealistic

REFERENCES
Hiding  /  Projections  / WeaknessesDefense pattern  / Defenses / Conflicts

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Enneagram – Type ‘DEFECTS‘ (Part 3b)

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I WISH I DIDN’T HAVE TO
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TYPE 4 – The INDIVIDUALIST (also 3w4 & 5w4, somewhat)
FEAR: of being insignificant, unseen, without identity – so they become hypersensitive, moody & pretentious
INTERNAL Story: “I must always be unique”

WEAKNESS : Being ordinary is experienced as boring, but it also makes them ‘feel’ like a nobody, so they’re jealous of other people-places-things. Insist on having all of their emotional needs met at once
DEFENSIVE PATTERN: 4s use ‘introjection’ to avoid ordinariness and maintain a self image of being authentic. Internally they magnify a positive ideal, as well as obsess on self-blame for any painful outcome ​

HIDE from others: “I’m not as sensitive as I appear to be.”
Envy/jealousy that other people seem to have more & are treated better than themselves – leads 4s to develop an aura of emotional hyper-sensitivity. They want to receive special treatment, thinking it will compensate for all the unfair treatment they’re experienced

PROJECTION: 4s avoid being ordinary, so ‘commonness’ is projected out onto others, who are experienced as being detached, insensitive, overly cheery, plain, predictable, rude, shallow AND not terribly interesting or refined.  4s experience themselves as unique & interesting, yet never understood. So they feel it is up to them to restore class, refinement & sensibility to the culture

MANIPULATE by: being erratic, temperamental, playing ‘hard to get’, making others “walk on eggshells”
Create CONFLICT by: being dramatic, emotionally demanding, moody, pretentious, self-absorbed, self-indulgent, temperamental, withholding

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TYPE 5 – The INVESTIGATOR (also 4w5 & 6w5, somewhat)
FEAR: of being helpless, useless & incapable, becoming emotionally overwhelmed, so avoid as much contact as possible with the world
INTERNAL Story: “I must always be detached”

WEAKNESS: Their urge to know everything on a topic or situation helps avoid a sense of emptiness. Insist on personal space & non-interference
DEFENSIVE PATTERN: 5s use ‘isolation’/ being withdrawn to avoid feeling small & helpless, & maintain a self image of being all-knowledgeable. This provides the space to develop a sense of structure & try to understand their ‘problem’

HIDE from others:“I’m not as smart as I appear to be.”
Holding back / isolating allows 5s to keep from sharing their emotional life with others – mainly relating by their intellect. Their source of strength is in their accumulated knowledge, using it to keep others away

PROJECTION: 5s hate looking foolish (not knowing something), so they project their ignorance out onto others, often feeling surrounded by a confederacy of dunces (Sherlock Holmes….). Others are considered to be emotional, foolish, overly effusive and chatty, myopic, oblivious, shallow-minded, stupid. 5s have the option of avoiding others entirely by withdrawing from the field, OR of researching and discovering the truth, & then enlightening everyone else

MANIPULATE by: staying preoccupied with thoughts and projects, detaching emotionally from others
Create CONFLICT by: being detached, extreme, high-strung, impractical,
isolated, preoccupied, provocative, unconventional, uncompromising
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TYPE 6 – The LOYALIST (also 5w6 & 7w6, somewhat)
FEAR: of never having support, & not being able to survive on their own – so they become defiant, defensive & suspicious
INTERNAL Story: “I must always be secure”

WEAKNESS : Anxiety, doubt & worry lead to a lack of trust in themselves
& therefore indecision & procrastination. They fluctuating between the need for be close and need to be alone, between self-distrust & over-reacting
DEFENSIVE PATTERN: 6s use ‘projection’ of their feelings on to loved ones & authority figures​- to avoid experiencing personal rejection, and to maintain a self image of being loyal
HIDE from others: “I’m not as committed as I appear to be.”
Fear of experiencing punishment & disapproval from an internal or external authority figure, drives 6s to be overly-responsible and loyal. This makes them seem committed to any given cause, BUT the commitment is mainly to their own need for security

PROJECTION: 6s avoid being disobedient & vulnerable, so they project rebelliousness and power onto others, who are experienced as
flighty, isolated, overly trusting, negligent, reckless, threatening and trying to get away with something.
— For fearful 6s the world is experienced as disappointing & unsafe, so it is up 6s to create certainty, order, safety & security everywhere
— Counter-phobic 6s (not conscious of great fear) project ambivalence out onto others, especially authority, seeing them as inconsistent and untrustworthy, giving a need to scold or train others to be consistent and fair

MANIPULATE by: being evasive, complaining, testing others’ commitment to them
Create CONFLICT by: being blaming, defensive, doubtful, evasive,
negative, pessimistic, reactive, suspicious, worried

NEXT: Defects – Part 3c

Enneagram – Type ‘DEFECTS’ (Part 3a)

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I HATE TAKING MY INVENTORY
it makes me feel hopeless

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QUOTE: “ People are wonderful; people are difficult. The Enneagram helps us make sense of both these statements” ~ Peter O’Hanrahan

EACH TYPE develops their own way of coping with a lifetime of stressors, which often end up adding to our distress.  'defects' Part 3
Notice on this chart how each WIC reacts to the lack of positive nurturing. 
As you read thru the following descriptions, keep in mind you don’t have to identify  with every aspect, even if you know your #.  Your specific Wings, Arrows, & other sub-types all need to be taken into consideration to have a clear picture of  your style.
w = each Type has 2 wings – additional modifying characteristics – one on either side, with one as a preference.  EXP: 5w4 & 5w6.  MORE in other posts.

TYPE 1 – The REFORMER  (also 9w1 & 2w1, somewhat)
FEAR: of being corrupt & “bad,” (not good) so they refuse to recognize their mistakes, and take even mild suggestions as criticism
INTERNAL Story: “I must always be perfect”

WEAKNESS : Becoming frustrated & angry when things or others don’t meet their high standards. Insist on being correct at the expense of their association with others. Al-Anon asks: “Do you want to be right, or do you want to  be happy?”

DEFENSIVE PATTERN: 1s use ‘reaction formation’ – an opposite or unrelated reaction to an authentic feeling – to avoid direct anger, & to maintain a self-image of always being right

HIDE from others:  “I’m not as perfect as I appear to be.” Anger & frustration in part comes from 1s being resentful for having flaws. They’re convinced that if they’re seen as less than perfect they’ll lose their position of the moral authority & arbiter of logic

PROJECTION: Since 1s avoid their own anger & imperfections, they project those out onto others – whom they experienced as being critical & angry towards them.  In general, the world is experienced as being careless, flawed, frivolous, imperfect, messy & wrong. They feel obliged to clean it up, straighten everyone out & get them back on the road to perfection (so they themselves can feel ‘safe’)

MANIPULATE by: constantly correcting others, playing on others’ sense of guilt & deficiency, insisting others share their standards
Create CONFLICT by: being opinionated, critical/self-critical, impatient, irritable, judgmental, rigid, perfectionistic, sarcastic

   

TYPE 2  - The HELPER  (also 1w2 & 3w2, somewhat)
FEAR: of being unloved & unappreciated, so they play favorites, judging some people more worthy of their attention than others
INTERNAL Story: “I must always be connected”

WEAKNESS : Have very poor boundaries, & help others instead of taking care of themselves.  Insist on exclusivity and ever more nearness

DEFENSIVE PATTERN: 2s use ‘repression’ of personal needs / feelings to avoid seeming to be needy (which they are), to maintain a self-image of being all-loving, & gain the approval of others

HIDE from others: “I’m not as caring as I appear to be.” Pride prevents 2s from overtly expressing their needs, so they try to get them met indirectly, secretly. They believe that by being constantly helpful, others will reciprocate – as if their good deeds are vouchers to be cashed in later. But others don’t know that’s the deal & therefore often disappoint 2s

PROJECTION: Since 2s avoid their own needs, they project that out onto others, who are experienced as cold, critical, heartless, indifferent, mean, prickly, selfish, withholding AND needing help. So 2s think it’s their job to scope out & empathize with the needs of others and minister to us, thereby making themselves indispensable

MANIPULATE by: mind-reading / scoping out what other people need or want & then catering to them, creating secret dependencies
Create CONFLICT by: being clingy, flattering, ingratiating, insincere, people-pleasing, possessive, seductive, self-important, self-deceptive, worried

   

TYPE 3  - The ACHIEVER  (also 2w3 & 4w3, somewhat)
FEAR: of being worthless & without value, so they create a too-good-to-be-true image, & push to achieve at any cost
INTERNAL Story: “I must always be outstanding”

WEAKNESS : Believing that an image of being successful comes first rather than expressing who they really are. Insist on career and social status over relationships

DEFENSIVE PATTERN: 3s use ‘identification’ to avoid failure and maintain a self image of being successful. Focus all their energy on an idealized facade and lose their True Self in the process

HIDE from others: “I’m not as together as I appear to be.” Self-deception causes 3s to put on a ‘I have it all together’ persona, as anything less would not meet their need to be the best. They can’t face the possibility that others would see them as a failure or incapable

PROJECTION: 3s avoid failure & inefficiency, so these unacceptable features are projected out onto others, who are experienced as being aimless, the source of all failures-inefficiency-ineptness, in danger of entropy, limited, losers, wallflowers, AND in need of assistance & guidance from the Three

MANIPULATE by: charming others, taking on/ adapting to whatever image will work to keep up appearances Create
CONFLICT by: being “appropriate” instead of sincere, boastful, competitive, grandiose, overly-driven, self-promoting, taking advantage

NEXT: Type Defects (Part 3b)

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Enneagram – Type ‘DEFECTS’ (Part 2)

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AM I WEAK? AM I BAD?
I just want to forget it all!

PREVIOUS: Type Defects, Part 1

SITEs: Enneagram for spiritual transformation – we love & hate it
Karen Horney and the Enneagram

WHEN TRYING to identify our own Type most people will choose the number that makes us look good & reject the one that indicates our Shadow side. However, the ‘normal’ defense of each number is the most direct indicator of our True Number, so it’s best to start with the list of the 9 Grand Passions.  Even though we share a portion of all nine qualities with everyone else, determining our type will depend on the main motivation for our behavior, & the Passion gives us that.

Deep & honest introspection will provide the AHA! moment, admitting the truth about our unhealthy side. We can think back to what we were like in our teens & 20s, when our reactive style was in full bloom. What was our overall behavior & attitude toward people-places-things? AND – is it how we still deal with life now?  Richard Rohr says a rule of thumb is: “Whoever is not humiliated has not yet found his or her ‘number’!”

Fatal Flaw: It’s important to make a distinction between each Type’s perceived Fatal Flaw & the very real acting-out of damage, via ones Passion/Vice.  Everyone wants to see themselves & be seen by others in a certain light. To hold onto our idealized self-image & keep it up in public, we have to completely deny acknowledging the thing we’re most afraid we are or might be. It’s the specific weakness that would bring us the greatest S-H if revealed – the real OR imagined flaw we take great pains to conceal, sometimes even from ourselves. 

● This ‘flaw’ generates a painful emotion specific to the Enneagram’s 3 sub-divisions: 2,3,4s feel Shame / 5,6,7s feel Fear / 8,9,1s feel Anger (expanded in other posts).  In addition each Type also gives us our ‘Core Emotion’ (based on the 7 Deadly Sins + 2):
Type #1 = Anger, #2 = Pride, #4 = Envy, #5 = Greed, #7 = Gluttony,
#8 = Lust, #9 =Sloth // + Type #6 = Fear & #3 = Deceit

To avoid having these feelings, we often gravitate toward things that aren’t in our best interest or are outright dangerous.  Each type tries hard to avoid experiencing its:     2 Insignificance // 3 Failure //4 Ordinariness
—- 5 Ignorance //  6 Irresponsibility // 7 Emptiness
8 Weakness //  9 Hostility // 1 Unworthiness

IRONICALLY, none are real defects! They only seem so to the person, while other types will not consider it such a bad thing, & may even find it laughable. All are various expression of being human – realistic limitation common to all. Only the grandiose IDEAL sees it as a personal weakness!

Projecting our Passion/Vice : Because the Gift-turned-Vice makes us see the world in terms of partial & distorted information, each protective style also creates a projection – causing the person to use their own defense against others.  The saying: “If the only tool you have is a hammer, then everything is a nail” implies that we must not use just ONE way of responding to ALL situations, & that some things are harmed by being pounded on, such as delicate emotions.
EXPs: It’s not OK to: talk away someone’s emotions (5), try to make others perfect (1), control everything around us (8), tell a sad or angry person to lighten up (7)….

TRAIT 2-4

TRAITS 8-1

TRAITS 5-7

Enneagram’s MAYA ILLUSIONS (Ginger Lapid-Bogda, PhD)

2s That being so focused & intent on others means that they themselves actually can do no wrong
3s That doing what they think they want is more often doing what they think they should want, not understanding the difference between the two
4s That being so ‘in touch with their feelings’ & pondering them with such  continual intensity makes them real, when the emotions they explore & express are neither their deepest nor their most real ones

5s That they don’t either know or experience their feeling states, when in  fact their emotions are extremely pure
6s That by focusing on serious issues, & bearing down on a problem with great intensity, confronting it will somehow get it solved or resolved
7s That they are propelled in perpetuity to live a life with a deep hole inside, when all they need do is GO inside to find themselves

8s That they don’t dare let their guard down, because if they do, something terrible will happen to them (or their loved ones)
9s That they are so consistently kind & nice, without recognizing that their under-experienced & unexpressed anger has painful consequences for them and others
1s That being so completely self-controlled will give them the joys and pleasures they want as a reward for being so good

NOTE – We must not be ashamed of our inherent protective style – it’s a necessary part of our psychological makeup. The problem comes from it’s overuse & then rigid adherence. If we can own it, then we can work on healing the original wounds, so the distorted defense is progressively less needed – & turned back into the GIFT it was meant to be!

So DO NOT use this info against yourself (S-H)!  Your Type also provides parallel discoveries of hidden & rejected positive qualities.

NEXT: Enneagram ‘Defects’ Part 3

Enneagram – Type “DEFECTS” (Part 1)

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my biggest weak spot!

PREVIOUS: Enneagram Basics (#3)

SITES: Enneagram Videos
The Enneagram of Individuality
List of NEG Characteristics  

  
The PASSIONS/Vices are the characteristic defensive styles each Type is born with to cope with life’s stressors. Each VICE/Passion with its accompanying Fixation - the opposite of the 7 Virtues (+ 2) - can also be called character defects, main Emotional Issues, Mental Habits, defensive styles, used here interchangeably.

Our Enneagram Number tells us who we are (Nature), along with our basic defensive style (Nurture), shown by how we habitually react (Es) & what we do (As) - especially when stressed.

● The Passion is the form of self-protection which we automatically gravitate to – based on our fundamental personality – originally a positive style of Being we can call our gift. This gift is a necessary & effective strategy for our survival as children, used to cope specifically with an unhealthy/unsafe upbringing, & in general with the universal difficulties of growing up.

– For most people the Passion gradually becomes a warped version of our Basic Self, exaggerating & twisting the very quality that is supposed to be our cushion & shield. Instead, prolonged childhood damage turns the gift into a burden. It becomes a chronic internal preoccupation & counter-productive driving force, putting us in a ‘type trance’, with limited & distorted ways of understanding & dealing with reality.
EXP: The Passion of #1 is Perfection, the emotion is Resentment, & the Mental Fixation is Judging.

Enneatype & Fixationsenn FIXATIONS
The Enneatype is the tool for human expression free of longing & searching. It can be described as an imaginary membrane between fixation & freedom, the basic energetic pattern of human potential before it becomes perverted.

Fixation is being stuck in a Freudian psycho-sexual stage of development (oral, anal…), as a result of the child feeling ‘not enough’, incomplete, & therefore separate, not connected. This separated self is a physical/mental contraction which tightens up into the Type’s fixation, creating all inauthentic or unnatural behaviors, driven by desperate longing, & a search for the impossible.   (Fixation CHART)

The Passion develops in a 3-stage process:
a. IDEAL: Karen Horney, in Neurosis and Human Growth says that “gradually & unconsciously we create an idealized image of ourselves, which entails self-glorification, & gives us the much-needed feeling of significance & superiority over others.”  This eventually leads to type-specific character defects.
EXP of Types uncomfortable with the Enneagram:
– 4s, the romantics who don’t want to look at the negative side of others
– 7s, the narcissists who never want to see their own negative side.

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b. LIFE STANCE: Our preoccupation with this self-image prevents us from allowing anything to seep into our awareness which would contradict or negate it. According to Horney, if we only look at the world thru ‘idealized glasses’, then our primary concern is not about what we truly feel, but whether or not we are safe. To feel safe – from being discovered as imperfect – and be able to stay inside the idealized bubble, we develop strategic but artificial ways to cope with life that override & bury our genuine emotions, wishes & thoughts.

Enn Life-Stance
c.
UNDER STRESS: In addition to our ‘regular’ in-authentic mode, when we have to deal with stressful situations, especially in the long-term, our fixation gets darker, turning into the negative Passion/Vice. We act out a twisted version of our self-image, adding to our burdens. Our over-reaction may be a temporary but characteristic flare-up, or the way we usually deal with people-places-things, even when not directly faced with a problem. Either way it separates us from others instead of drawing us closer together – making our life even more difficult!  (MORE re charts….

Enn Under Stress

NEXT: Enn “Defects” (Part 2)

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