Anger – TRIGGERS (Part 1)

anger/ painTHERE’S NO END
OF THINGS

that can set me off!

PREVIOUS: Anger –
Negative Uses (#2)

SITE: Anger TRIGGERS Qs


WHAT GETS US MAD?

Trigger + our point of view about it + our temperament = anger (but not always or for everyone)
Our emotional reaction of anger to PPT is usually a combination of internal & external factors. Sometimes external events that bother us are actually positive or neutral, but because of our internal damage (from the WIC & the PP) we react to a stimulus with anger.  EXP – for ACoAs:
— being accused WRONGLY enrages us
— being accused RIGHTLY terrifies us (& then we get angry & defensive)
anger iceberg
• While there are many legitimate reasons to get angry, under the anger are some‘sensitive’ emotions we may not want to admit to, such as loneliness, need, loss, abandonment pain, fear, sadness….. which cause us a great deal of pain, making us feel too vulnerable.
Everyone has hot buttons which set us off, based on our personality and our childhood experiences. Anyone interested in Recovery /personal growth will need to identify our specific triggers, in order to better manage our verbal & physical responses. ICEBERG

1. INTERNAL Triggers
Emotionally, the big 3 – which inevitably trigger anger – are:
— being HURT – our feelings, our integrity, an important loss, an insult to anyone/thing we love…..
triggers– being SCARED – EXP: Man in bike with little son on the back almost gets side- swiped by a bus, making him yell & hit the bus with his fist
— being FRUSTRATED – whenever someone/thing blocks us from reaching a goal (big or small), especially if it’s for a long time

Our own PERSONALITY – as mentioned elsewhere, genetics plays a part in our temperament. Some people are naturally more easily revved up when something goes wrong for them. (Enneagram 891’s, certain astrological combinations…..)

High / unrealistic EXPECTATIONS (‘should’ beliefs @ others)
Expectations held as demands usually create low-frustration tolerance, leading to inappropriate anger-expressions, such as:
— a tendency to lecture people on how they ‘should’ / ‘should not’ behave
— a deeply rooted belief that our circumstances & people ‘have to / need to’ be exactly as we expect (MORE…. scroll to 2/8/14, w/ charts)

Cognitive DISTORTIONS (CDs) & Toxic Beliefs S-H
Awfulizing, blaming, discomfort-intolerance, mind-reading, filtering, perfectionism….. at best will lead to lead to disappointment & frustration, at worst to Self-Hate & rage. False beliefs cause anxiety, leading to aggression, in an attempt to ward off perceived threats to our well-being OR to our self-image. CD cause us to misinterpret facts, events, or other people’s actions as threats to goal achieving our goals, or as attacks on our dignity, rules or property. Misinterpreting our environment leads to wrong conclusions, leading to self-defeating actions DRAWING

EXP: Labeling – ‘Global’, all-encompassing rating (“all men are —- / She’s such a witch / no one cares about me…. / those — are all lazy, shiftless”) prevent us from fully experiencing people as individuals with plusses & minuses – just like us! Labeling makes it easier to be angry with others when they annoy or disappoint us.  (MORE….)

IMPULSIVENESS (poor emotional control)
While some of us are fundamentally more easily upset than others, impulsive reactions can usually be traced back to our WIC, who is filled with anxiety, accumulated from past trauma. The more anxiety, the more likely it will be expressed by burst of anger. Some of us only let it out around people we’re close too, others only toward strangers. But the fact that it’s an instantaneous over-reaction tells us the Amygdala is in charge, not the Cortex. That’s why it’s considered psychologically immature.

ANGER CYCLE – unhealthy circle of emotional & behavior responses to events which hurt, frustrate of scare us. (From DAMBREAKER)
1. Trigger – loss, words, actions or anything else that will set off anger
2. Internal Reaction – letting us know that something is ‘wrong’
3. Intensification – A flush of chemicals are released in the brain, with heart rate anger cycle & breathing dramatically increased.  This gives people a reason to justify how they’re feeling, most of the time concluded inaccurately, based on false assumptions (CDs)
4. External Barrier Break – Some obvious signs of anger start showing which others can clearly see, such as crying, angry gestures, shouting….

5. Explosive Peak – when someone moves into a verbal &/or physically violent way of expressing their anger. Dangerous to others, but also themselves – by saying / doing say things they may not really mean
6. Exhaustion & Withdrawal – when the anger/rage had died down or dissipated
7. Final Stage
a. Remorse and Apology – having calmed down & realizing their over-reaction, some people will realize their errors use this time to apologize for their outburst – OR
b. Intense Justification – others (especially narcissists) will not admit they’re done/said anything wrong, & will find a ‘good’ reason for their reaction, including blaming others for causing their
REPEAT – Whether one is a chronic or occasional rager, without Pattern Correction, this cycle will be repeated.

ANOTHER way of looking at this same process comes from Ronald Potter-Efron’s best-seller “Angry All the Time” – Normal vs Chronic anger

NORMAL anger cycleCHRONIC anger cycle

ALSO: See Combination chart for a more detailed view, which include T.E.A.s within each phase of the behavior cycle – applied to anger & other dysfunctional patterns (“Anger management for Kids” on Flourish&Thrive (6/1/12)

NEXT: Anger triggers (Part 2)

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Re: New Template

Please note that in the new format, all LINKS are colored pale green  – so I am going to go thru the posts (slowly) & change them to italic, in order to make them stand out.

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Anger – Negative USES (Part 1)

  negative anger

I CAN CONTROL ANYONE
when I’m angry!

PREVIOUS: Anger – positive uses

SITE:The Downside of Anger

 

HEALTHY anger (the emotion) is one form of energy, motivating us to speak up, to stand up for ourselves or get people together to make changes for the better. Normally, emotions cover a wide range of possible feelings, & most of the time come & go rather quickly. They tend to be brief because healthy people will take some action to deal with whatever is causing it. When they mustHEALTHY anger put off solving a problem or situation, they don’t waste time & energy endlessly mulling over being wronged. Instead, they figure out what their realistic options are, & then move on to something else, waiting for the right time to act.
SITE: “Join the grouchy club: Why negative emotions can be a force for good

UNHEALTHY anger, on the other hand:
1. Doesn’t happen enough
• Repressing our anger teaches others that it’s totally OK to be unkind & insensitive. AND, it also allows them continue being less socially & emotionally skillful, less socially aware & less valuable in society.
• Leaking it out indirectly teaches others that we’re not safe to be around, not emotionally skilled & not empathically aware

2. Happens too much, more than 5-6x a week, as in having ‘a chip on your shoulder’, making others feel they have to walk on eggshells around the chronically angry person

3. Lasts a long time - more than a day, for around 30% of people. It tends to go along with obsessions, Toxic Beliefs, CDs, S-H & difficulty with personal boundaries. For ACoAs, anger & rage often lasts for months, even years – with no resolution, because: • we deny the depth & breadth of the anger
• are not allowed to feel angry, especially at our parents
• have never been taught how to express it correctly & productively

4. Expressed badly
(unsuccessful/harmful): swearing, insults, shouting, using food or chemicals to calm down/numb out, giving the cold shoulder, retaliating, spreading rumors, malicious gossip…..

UNHEALTHY anger5. Over-reactive – the intensity of emotion & physical/verbal expression is out of proportion to the trigger – because the current incident stepped on a ‘sore toe’ from past abuse. And if others also get angry in reaction to us, things can easily escalate, often obscuring the original upset.

6. Causes big problems. When situations which cause anger are not solved or walked away from, anger will build until there’s some kind of explosion, leading to trouble (being expelled or fired, arrested, injuring others, illness, bad relationships…) T.E.A. circles

INTERESTING: In Chinese medicine, Emotions are considered large movemScreen Shot 2015-02-20 at 6.35.43 PMents of energy which override the Qi’s usual flow through the channels & tributaries of the body.  The 5 main emotions = their 5 movements of energy: Anger, Joy, Meditation, Fear, Grief. ANGER energy gets pushed out in  a jagged way, which disturbs the Liver, whose job is to lift energy up to the Spirit, at the center of the Sheng Cycle.

• Used in Acupuncture, the SHENG cycle (def.) represents creativity, generation & production, in which each of the 5 elements feeds Qi to the one on its right, clockwise – creating that next one, as a mother creates a child. (Scroll down to 5 element chart)  / ALSO: “Applying the 5 elements
EXP: LIVER = Wood transforms (by burning) into HEART = Fire. Wood is the Element of determination, anger & assertion. It produces the creative urge to achieve – which can turn to anger when frustrated. Wood-anger, expressed aggressively, can also come from not feeling in control of life events.

Wood-Children: The root cause of their physical complaints can be traced back to a difficult birth &/or a painful childhood, when parents over- controlled with harsh discipline or too much structure. As adults, these people’s emotions range mostly from frustration to hopelessness. They will shout & act assertive, be pushy & want others to push back. BUT they also want to know that others are in control, so they can relax. The color green will seen to float above the skin, like a glow….(MORE...)

bitterness treeBITTERNESS has been described as “the crusty disease that grow on unprocessed anger…. which has boiled, simmered, & then found so unpalatable that it has been thrown into the deep freeze of our unconscious psyches. Refrigeration doesn’t work well, as cooled anger turns to resentment & bitterness. It has an annoying tendency to leak out at inappropriate times, upsetting good relationships, disturbing our dreams & filling us with a vague discontent.” ~ Elizabeth Spring  MA

• According to Philosophy Prof Dr. R.C Solomon, U of TX:
Resentment/bitterness is directed at someone of higher status than oneself, Anger at those of equal-status, & Contempt at those of lower-status. These are painful emotions which mainly harm us, but inevitably spill over onto others (targets).
— The underlying cause of Bitterness (tree) comes from having suffered long-term abuse at a time when one truly was or felt powerless to stop it.
— Resentment, which is focused on someone else, can easily be triggered by remembering a very upsetting experience at their hands.
— When turned on oneself, resentment becomes remorse.

• These unacknowledged hurts can take the form of: Animosity, Antagonism, Implacability (not appease-able), Hatred, Infantile Narcissism, Pathological Pride, Vindictiveness, Verbal & Emotional cruelty. (Explanations….).
Al-Anon reminds us: “Expectations are planned disappointments, leading to resentment.”  There are many things in the present we can attach our resentments to, but all are smoke screens for the underlying pain, usually from unresolved childhood trauma.

NEXT: Negative Uses (Part 2)

Anger – Positive USES

k7607080I CAN CONTROL EVERYONE
if I’m just ‘nice’ enough

PREVIOUS: Anger Types, #2

SITEs: “The uses of Anger” + Richard Prior story
Making Anger Your Ally

BOOK: “Surprising Purpose of Anger ~ M.B. Rosenberg, PhD

BASIC purpose of anger: To manage internal & external stimuli (PPT) which produce emotions of fear, hurt or frustration in us

➼ Fear is for keeping us safe, love is for bonding & anger is for righting wrongs, so the emotion of anger is never the problem, only how we act

CONSTRUCTIVE use of anger usually involves both sides of a dispute, not just the angry person. In best-case scenarios, the angry person expresses their grievance, the target person listens, & then responds appropriately. If the anger is justified & the response suitable, the misunderstanding is usually corrected. The Q. then is not “Should I express anger or should I suppress it?, but rather “What can we do to solve the problem?” (MORE…..)

• In our culture, on the one hand, anger is respected as a sign personal strength & self-confidence. On the other hand, most people are afraid of someone being angry because it’s associated with aggression & violence. However, this is not automatic or inevitable. Anger can actually help reduce violence in many social settings, because intimidated people become more obliging than usual, who will placate the angry one, thus minimizing their upset & preventing escalation.
— Authors Howard Kassinove PhD & Chip Tafrate, PhD, tells us that “In fact, anger seems to be followed by aggression only about 10% of the time, & lots of aggression occurs without any anger”. And – James Averill, PhD, from U. of Mass. says that “When you look at everyday episodes of anger, as opposed to more dramatic ones, the results are usually positive”.  (MORE…..)

NEURO-PLASTICITY can replace negative Beliefs & painful Emotions: Our brain is like putty – it can be trained & repeatedly reshaped. Since stressful emotions & uplifting emotions occupy the same ‘real estate’ in our brain (the amygdala), we can use our anger to tell us what experience or disappointment or bad news triggers our inner Green Hulk.
For example, getting stuck in heavy traffic often generates frustration & rage, but it’s not the delay that creates those emotions – they come from what we’re saying to ourselves: “Get out of my way you jerks, I’m going to be late, everyone’s always causing me problems, this is going to screw up my appointment, why does this always happen to me?….”, even tho these thoughts are probably outside our awareness. Feeling angry every time we’re in heavy traffic strengthens a specific neural pathway, cementing the emotion.

• When there’s nothing we can actually do in that moment but accept the delay, it would help instead to notice & then change what we’re saying to ourselves, which can change how we feel. If we redirect our attention to something we like very time we’re on the road (remembering a beloved pet, a recent success, talking to the Inner Child….), it will eventually form a more pleasant emotional response. We can start linking traffic with stillness or comfort. We can listen to interesting tapes, sing along to our favorite music, think thru a knotty problem or create/ design something we can make later.

• Because the Amygdala also holds memories associated with various emotional responses, it will remember the positive changes we makestuck in traffic
when we combine a diligent observation our own personality traits + what sets us off + a willingness to change our automatic responses. It takes patience & repetition to form a new pathway, but by not using the old one (neural inhibition) the brain will be rewired. As we keep practicing, being more peaceful gets easier & more natural. The ability for self-evaluation & change provide self-mastery, which gives a feeling of empowerment, key factors in feeling happy.

PERSONAL – Healthy Anger-Expression CAN:
• help defend & preserve our identity, encouraging self-esteem
• provide a break from feeling afraid, vulnerable or hurt
• give a sense of personal empowerment & positive control in situations where we once felt powerless & defeated
• definitely tell us when our needs aren’t being met
• be used to vent tension & frustration, burning off an accumulated backlog of Es (when in overwhelm)
CAN:
• provide the energy & motivation to take some action (perhaps something that’s been put off)
• stop abuse as it’s happening, & stop future potential abuses (verbal attacks, domestic abuse, bullied at work….)
• encourage us to work on changing whatever caused the anger in the first place – if at all possible. When it’s not, it can give us the courage to leave a hopeless &/or dangerous situation
• provide an opening to express our values (righteous anger), to challenge & change difficult interpersonal injustices
ALSO:
• it’s a stage of mourning, on the way to accepting an inevitable loss
• it’s a characteristic of optimism, because there’s still a sense of possibilities & the ability to fight if necessary (depression=hopelessness)

SOCIAL – Healthy Anger-Expression CAN:
• send a strong message to an offender they’ve done something wrong
• give us the courage to ask that someone treat us better from now on
• let others know our true position about something, with the appropriate intensity of emotion suited to the situation
• motivate us to constructively work on healing an emotional injury – without attack, blame, causing guilt, humiliation or shame
• set needed boundaries, to stop others from encroaching on our rights & property
CAN:
• get someone’s attention (to be heard), especially if the person is talking over, interrupting or ignoring us
help us stay connected to our social group, rather than withdrawing
• build or improve relationships by forming appreciation, connection, respect, sense of understanding & trust
• set a president for better communication in the future, & the groundwork for acceptance, letting go & moving on
• energize our fight for legitimate rights, overcome oppression or topple a tyrant (slavery & apartheid, women’s suffrage, civil rights…). Handled correctly, our anger can motivate others to help us with our cause

NEXT: Anger – Negative uses

Anger TYPES (Part 2)

ANGER SHOWS UPFinger-emotions
in every psychological disorder

PREVIOUS: Anger TYPES (Part 1)

SITEs: The Primacy of Anger Problems
Anger Problems: A Smokescreen for Fear-Shame Phobia

HAND
: Emotions connected to Spinal Column, seen on fingers (Anger=Green), used to ‘harmonize subtle energies ,
AND (scroll down) shows what emotion needs attention


DEGREES of FEAR & ANGER
We can use the temperature chart below to help stay aware of what we’re T.E.A. chartfeeling, which is often driven by what we’re thinking, since together they directly effect how we act (T.E.A).

• Whenever possible, especially around people we don’t know, are not close to, or who are unhealthy (active addicts & other narcissists), it’s self-protective & appropriate to only show how we feel on the outside of this Emotion Circle, because they are milder. In most social situations, people will be more Screen Shot 2014-12-26 at 10.41.37 PMcomfortable around us if we’re ‘unsure’ rather than ‘hysterical’, ‘aggravated’ not ‘enraged’…. making us more likable, which we all want, whether we admit it to ourselves or not.
( 2 CHARTS )
• ALSO, if we do let our how we feel from the center of the circle, it can influence others to become reactive too, as a result of echoing our feelings (via mirror emotions layersneurons), so that when we:
— get enraged, others may also become angry
— feel depressed, others can get ‘down’,
JUST AS when we:
— get exited, others tend to also feel happy
— feel calm, others can feel more relaxed

REMINDER: This in not an encouragement to deny our emotions, nor to be co-dependent – worrying about how others feel. Always distinguish between having an emotion & expressing it.
➼ It IS a reminder to stay awake for what’s going on inside, & work on letting the Adult ego state be more in charge, rather than the WIC
AND
➼ that we do have an effect on others – surprise, surprise! which many of us don’t realize – or believe – since our family never saw or responded to the REAL us. We were only treated as a burden, a nuisance or as a useful ‘tool’. 
So now we need to become visible to ourselves & choose healthy people to correctly mirror us (validate) – people who have good boundaries & a clear sense of their True Self.  (MORE…..The Anger Thermostat: What’s Your Upset Temperature?)

Anger is a predictable SYMPTOM of Psychological Disorders

Intermittent Explosive Disorder (IED)
Characterized by periodic eruptions of anger & rage, disproportionate to the circumstances, most commonly seen in impulsive young men. They may threaten, assault others, harm themselves, or destroy property. These eruptions come after a period of heightened internal tension, followed by feelings of emotional release & then immediate regret.

Depressive Disorders – Characterized by diminished self-esteem, heightened self-pity, irritability, low mood, reduced frustration tolerance – which can create anger control problems. Men are less likely to report depression & anxiety disorders, but shame is an underlying cause. For women it’s more likely fear of abandonment, loss & rejection.

Anxiety Disorders – Sufferers of Depression & Anxiety are often in a continual state of tension. Their overworked nervous system alternates between hyper-arousal & exhaustion, priming the brain for an anger or rage reaction.
This group includes Generalized Anxiety, Panic attacks, PTSD, & Phobias. Also, OCD (Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder – mainly chemical) sets the stage for resentments, because the person is more likely to hang on to envy/jealousy, fear of abandonment, & fantasies of being disrespected, harmed or victimized.

Personality Disorders are characterized by rigidity & denial.
Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder people (OCPD – mainly psychological) are demanding, judgmental & perfectionistic. OCD & OCPD sufferers act as if their life depends on reaching a particular goal or having their demands met. Anger rises when those are frustrated.
Narcissistic Personality Disorder people (NPD) are subject to rage reactions when their desperate need for attention or admiration is frustrated.
Histrionic Personality Disorder people are vulnerable to angry outbursts when emotionally flooded.
Borderline Personality Disorder people (BPD) are exceptionally vulnerable to anger because of weak & nonexistent self-worth & sense of belonging. This causes a roller-coaster type emotionality, with rage reactions & unstable relationships.

NEXT: ANGER – ways to react (Part 1)

Anger TYPES (Part 1)

dragging angerI’M STILL CARRYING
all this baggage – mine AND theirs!

PREVIOUS: Anger & the Brain (#5)

SITENaming types of anger - worksheet

NOTE: Psychologists who assert that anger is a secondary rather than primary emotion are only partially correct. Anger is often used to cover up other, more vulnerable emotions we don’t want to experience or admit to (fear, guilt, neediness, loneliness….), as well as being an underlying feature of neurotic narcissism & a sense of entitlement.

BUT, like anxiety, anger is a primary & appropriate reaction to anything threatening our physical, psychological, spiritual or existential integrity.
Feeling anger in such circumstances is an assertion of our most basic right to be an individual. Without it we wouldn’t be able to defend ourselves or those we love when needed – to fight for freedom, or what we truly believe in & value.

BASIC CATEGORIES identified by psychologists:
• “Hasty & sudden” by Joseph Butler, (18th-century English bishop & philosopher) is connected to the impulse for self-preservation. It’s shared by human & non-human animals, occurring when tormented or trapped
• “Settled & deliberate“, a reaction to perceived deliberate harm or unfair treatment by others. These two forms of anger are episodic – occasional & based on triggers
• “Dispositional” is related more to character traits than to instincts or thoughts, seen as being easily irritated, often sullen, lacking civility or graciousness, difficult to work with or deal with…. & therefore character-driven (as unhealthy Enneagram 891 types).

RANGE of expression chart - tells us that: Anger SPECTRUM
Silent, unexpressed anger – deliberately ignoring someone – is experienced by the recipient as psychic murder of the Self

Loudly expressed anger may  be received by others as physical murder. These are both especially true for children. Overt RAGE tends to be sudden, undeserved & often uncontrolled. It produces waves of negative energy unleashed on another person, making the recipient instantly weak.

INTERESTING distinction:
WET ANGER – when your eyes water & your voice shakes, the type you hate because you’re angry AND crying. It makes you feel like a weak person, because it shows that you still care too much
DRY ANGER – when your face is like stone & your voice is sharp, & it means that your done! ~ Unknown

1. OUR PAST ANGER
OLD but ongoing: Anger as a direct result of the trauma we’ve suffered, often on a daily basis, & therefore reasonable, but not influenced by an immediate event. It’s long-term, perhaps just under the surface, simmering, perhaps suppressed. But the origin comes form very real experiences, especially when we were the most vulnerable & powerless.

Directed AT US: Someone’s current behavior toward us triggers our deep well of fear, frustration or hurt (Aaron Beck, 1980s). Our anger-reaction is expressed in an attempt to protect ourselves from further injury when we experience being threatened, slighted or rejected – deliberate or not. Our anger/rage can be explosive & feel like it’s taking us over, since the situation remind us, consciously or unconsciously, of very real childhood PMES abuse.
This explains out-of-proportion reactions, because “If it’s hysterical, it’s historical”. While the original source was real, often times the present cause is not actually dangerous, because the triggering incident is neutral or minor, AND we are no longer a powerless child, even tho we may be run by the WIC.

Happening TO SOMEONE ELSE: This is when we feel intense anger in the present, but not from something happening directly to us. It’s a sympathy-over-reaction to something we see or hear, also coming from our own past PMES trauma.
EXP – We may become very angry when we:
— see a mother verbally abusing or ignoring her child
— watch a movie where someone is being treated as if invisible, made fun of, threatened, beaten, molested….
— see animal abuse or neglect (identification with)…..
……which trigger memories of what we also experienced.

2. Our INTROJECT’s Anger (the PP)
This type is what we carry (unconsciously absorbed) from one or more of our raging or passive-aggressive parents/caretakers. It became so much a part of us that now we don’t even recognize it as “not mine”.
We absorbed all their emotions, both as a result of:
• adults unloaded their disowned rage & hurt onto us as kids, in the form of verbal & physical attacks (not our choice at that time), AND
• our genuine love for our family, the Child’s desire to ‘help’ our parents by taking on some of their suffering, as if we could lighten their burden.
IMP: ACoAs need to separate out their anger & rage from our own – the unprocessed pain of what they experienced, carried & passed on to us vs. our anger at how we were abused & abandoned. Then mentally ‘package it up’ & return it. This can be done with visualizations, drawings & body work.

3. CONSTRUCTIVE ANGER
Anger that comes from the Adult ego state, in response to a specific present-day issue, prompting us too act in a positive way to remove an obstacle on our path, or to right an injustice. (More in other posts).

NEXT: Anger Types

Anger & the BRAIN (Part 5 )

brain asymetry

 

DON’T KNOW WHAT’S WRONG
must be those pesky chemicals!

PREVIOUS: Anger & the Brain (Part 4)

SITE: “THE BRAIN IN LOVE’ – areas that are ‘switched off’

ASYMMETRY – Altho most brain functions can be found in both hemispheres (More…), each side has its specializations. The 2 main organizing principles of emotions in the pre-frontal cortex (PFC) are based on the slight difference in their sizes, & differing ways of processing emotions, which are:
a) ‘Emotional Valence’ (pleasant-unpleasant)
b) ‘Motivational Direction’ (approach-withdrawal)

Combining these models gives us:
Approach – The LEFT lobe of the PFC mainly produces chemical connections which allow us to experience pleasurable emotions (joy, interest, relief, love, pleasure…), that make it easy for us to be close to others. Damage to this side causes depression.
ALSO – it mainly controls verbal tasks, & makes decisions about what experiences to store in memory. ‘Positive’ emotions improve verbal memory, but hinder spatial memory.

Withdrawal – The RIGHT hemisphere is the main source of chemicals generating unpleasant & painful emotions, such as fear, dread, anxiety, disappointment…. which create the desire to withdraw. These emotions are especially needed to encourage withdrawing or avoiding inappropriate or dangerous situations. Damage to this side cause mania.
ALSO – it mainly deals with spacial tasks, retrieving & monitoring the value of stored memories, & nonverbal movement such as facial expressions. Reverse of LEFT side, ‘negative’ emotions improve spacial memory, but hinder verbal memory.

Howeveranger seems to be a special case, since it’s more likely to activate the LEFT lobe of the prefrontal cortex. Even tho we have been taught to think of anger as a negative, Señorita Neus Herrero, (U. of Valencia, Spain) points out : “Normally when we get angry we show a natural tendency to get closer to what made us angry, to try to eliminate it.” This info offers a hint as to why many people prefer feeling anger or rage when upset, rather than emotions that are underneath the anger, such as fear, terror, loneliness, disappointment…. because it give one a sense of power, and maybe even pleasure. Notice when you or someone else is smiling during or after being angry!

For ACoAs under long-term duress, since the emotional hijacking interferes with our ability to think clearly, we react to every thing as if it were an actual danger to us, keeping us angry, even paranoid (scared) much of our life. Being continually fearful, enraged, lonely… in childhood – tends to burn out much of the neurochemicals that would normally create a sense of well-being (left lobe), so we’re left with is too much of the pre / post traumadown-side ones (right lobe). This can become a chronic condition & will need some kind of treatment to correct (meds, food, herbs, exercise, therapy….) Drawing

● The 2 amygdala bulbs also determine what memories are stored in the brain and where, based on how intense the emotional response is to whatever we experience. Studies by Larry Cahill, PhD at UC Irvine showed they are involved in learning & remembering in specific ways:
WOMEN are more likely to remember details of emotional events because their left amygdala is more active, while —
MEN are more likely to remember the gist of emotional events because  the right one is more active. (Improving Memory)

ARTICLEs:
— “Differences in Male & Female brains”- size of areas, chemicals, stress reactions……
— The WHOLE BRAIN MODEL combines a variation of the Myers-Briggs Inventory (psychology) with structural brain parts, Left-Right brain sides, the 4 brain quadrants (physiology) – as a tool to “Improve Team Dynamics and Job Productivity” Scroll down to see charts.

CHART below (Anger: Amygdala +/ – PFC)

anger paths