Satir’s LEVELER Role


leveler 

I’M ON THE LEVEL –
so you can believe me

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Virginia Satir’s ROLES
All roles are learned in childhood. The 4 unhealthy ones are created as defense mechanisms & are how we threaten ourselves – since they prevent us from being loved, trusted or being able to grow.  Satir gives seven reasons why we take on these patterns:
• I might make a mistake     • I might impose   •  They might leave me
• Someone will criticize me      • Someone might not like it
• They will think I am no good    • I might be thought of as imperfect

The dysfunctional roles: Blamer, Computer, Placater & Distracter
The Leveler is the only healthy role

1. LEVELERS
Style: Satir suggested that 4.5 percent of people will typically use this style, but many psychologists think this is optimistic
• they are emotionally balanced, assertive (not aggressive) & can relate to all kinds of people
• hold strong positive beliefs about themselves & others, have a conscious positive intention behind everything they do, operate from strong personal values & store positive mind images
• respond to situations in a consistent way, conducting their life with integrity, commitment & creativity

• are dependable because they are true to their perceptions.  balanced
• Engage in honest, direct, clear communication, in real-time
• have few threats to their self-esteem, accept stress as normal, are comfortable with ambiguous & uncertain situations• they look for solutions, work out problems realistically & appropriately, their communication style helps resolve conflicts
• establish rapport before trying to influence, so can bring people together
• engage with a threat rather than fighting it , sweeping it under the carpet or running away

• apologize when making a mistake & can evaluate the situation fairly, without blame
• ‘tell it as it is’, without exaggerating or minimizing situations
• are comfortable with their own feelings & can discuss them freely
• their relationships are easy, free & honest
• may talk intellectually (like the “Computer”), as when lecturing or explaining something, but their emotions are still available

Energetic Description (from Mary Jo Bulbrook)
• Levelers are able to hold their ground, are clear in communicating their needs, set physical & emotional energetic boundaries.  All chakras are about equal, open & flowing, allowing for energy to come in and go out easily
• Potential impact on receiver: help things grow & enhance the flow of the other person’s energyrespect cycle

Statements: “I’m relaxed & comfortable because I‘ve got nothing to hide”.  “I like you”.
An important aspect of leveling is the use of “I” statements, which express what they really mean, describe their feelings & wants, while recognizing the feelings & wants of others

Stance: • body, voice & facial expressions all give the same message
• body facing directly towards others, head vertical, relaxed face, even eyebrows, shoulders & hips level, heels directly below the shoulders so that legs are slightly apart, feet facing forward
• both palms facing down, fingers out flat, slightly wider than the body — as if trying to level the situation

Source of Power: comes from finding the most effective behavior for solving problems creatively & in cooperation with othershonest, fair
Negative: they consistently state facts, are straightforward & tell the truth, as per their understanding. This makes some people uncomfortable, so they tend to get angry at Levelers, feel insulted & stay away from them
Positive:  however, Satir found that when people start to level (be real), they connect to their body, heart, feelings & brains, which leads to finding their souls & their humanity.

NEXT: BLAMER Role

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