Relationship STAGES


relationship stages 

GOOD RELATIONSHIPS TAKE TIME!
You mean I have to wait?

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STAGES of RELATIONSHIP    
These 8 stages show the ‘normal’ progression for humans to move from stranger to long-term partners, & apply to all types of relationships.

NOTE: This outline is not about ROMANTIC connections (such as develops in Stage 6), which is given below the chart.

Stages 1 & 2 are the ones most people fall into – in relation to each of us. They are the people we pass every day & barely notice.

#2 thru 5 are the stages we should go thru to form any connection, regardless of gender or sexual interest.  This can take anywhere from a year, to 4 or 5 ys, depending on the how often you communicate, & level of emotional availability.

#6 should come after some of the other steps have been worked thru, but with sex added in, steps 2-5 usually come later, if there’s enough to hold our interest. Those stages should still be given lots of time

#7  As we becomes more aware of others (moving further on the continuum), the more of ourselves comes onto play. This level of commitment need to be the result of other steps, rather than the beginning – the way ACoAs do it!

#8 If the other stages have been worked thru as honestly as we can,  this one will be a generally functional & happy one, because we’ve done our due-diligence, having picked a more suitable partner & being less reactive ourselves.

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ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP STAGES
1. “HONEYMOON”  (2 mths – 2 yrs.) When we idealize the other person. It’s wrapped in an air of excitement & optimism, when anything seems possible

2. POWER STRUGGLE – The couple begins to see the differences between them & notice things they don’t have in common. This is when people can easily pull apart, even divorce.

3. STABILITY – This is available if the power struggles (“Who’s in Charge?”) can be resolved amicably & fairly, so neither partner is the underdog

4. COMMITMENT – If marriage has not already occurred, it is likely at this stage. Partners know each other well and realize they don’t neeed each other, but want to be together

5. CO-CREATION – When partners move out into the world, from having children to participating in joint business or other kinds of ventures.  (MORE….)

NEXT: Relationship CONTINUUM chart

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