I hope you feel the same way!

Part 1: R.A.Qs, 1-30

: Print out the Questionnaire & check off each sentence as it applies, using 1 as Weakest & 5 as the Strongest feeling about a specific person: ______________(♥).

Add up each column and then add up those totals, to get one number for your Romantic Attraction (R.A.)
• 180 -200 = Little or no romantic interest, so is not likely to work out, no matter how much one of you may want it
• 200 – 220 = Weak R.A., indicating borderline interest
• 220 – 260 = Strong R.A., enough for a relationship to be satisfying if both of you fall in this range
260 – 300 = Very high R.A., indicating a strong compatibility, if both have similar scores

• If one of you scores below 200 & the other person scores over 220 – especially after several tries – expect the relationship to just run its course.  Enjoy what you can & then move on
• If both of you score below 200, you’re not suited for partnership, BUT having a mutually low R.A. makes it easier to have a satisfying & long-lasting friendship, if you would like to keep in contact

ACoAs – As stated in other posts, ACoAs (& unrecovered addicts in general) usually have relationships:unsatisfied
• driven by our WIC & PP, rather than our True Self
• based on interlocking damage with another person
• trying to get the good parenting we never got in childhood
• that act out our deepest fears & greatest wounds
• just to keep us from feeling alone & abandoned, no matter how unsatisfying or harmful

We’re afraid:rejection
• to stand up for ourselves – say what we want or don’t want
• we won’t ever be able to choose better friends & lovers
• our family will disapprove of / not accept our choices
• to risk ‘everything’ on our Inner Truth

➼ One of the secondary GOALs of this kind of QUIZ is to get us thinking about the positive qualities we should be looking for in a partner, as well as being someone who has a right to be comfortable & happy in any relationship
• Romantic excitement can not be manufactured or forced if it doesn’t already exist, but all good relationships require a level of emotional maturity (list in future post), which can be improved upon with continuing effort & the right tools

NEXT: Infatuation…


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