Ego States – SUMMARY

e.s. summary

Which E.S. do you present to the world?

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WATCH: On YouTube – TA, Ego-states 1, 2 & 3

SITEs: EgoGrams in couples counseling
EgoGrams” – Graphs of Professions
  Using the 5 ego states

EGO STATES: “The hypothesis that there are several different, coherent functions of the ego that find a parallel in brain structures is being reflected in the findings of neuro-anatomists and evolutionary psychologists, who refer to them as ‘mind modules’. Mind modules are evolutionary structures that specialize in certain functions, such as language, empathy, attachment, emotions, movement….. The research of evolutionary psychologists shows a great deal of corroborative potential, especially if it can be shown that there are three major mind modules that parallel the three ego states. One ego state, the rational Adult, is a well-validated function that resides in the human prefrontal lobe” (MORE….)

5 ego statesAT OUR BEST
This Intelligent Heart (IH) schematic, developed by Dr. Frohlich, combines Freud’s, Jung’s & Berne’s models, showing the underlying energy flows similar to parts of NLP. Included here is the spiritual underpinnings we all have, the essential energetic element in all forms of communication. This aspect is based on solid research data showing the psychological & neuro-physiological effects, given a spiritual perspective. (MORE…..)

HANDS: represent the neurological functions of each brain hemisphereheart cycle
Right – corresponds to the left side, with its structured & analytical thought processes

Left – in charge of right side, the imagery, musical and artistic part of the brain. ALSO the centers for higher consciousness & actual experienced spirituality, but not their mental concepts (the dogma).

1. Universal Wisdom of Love:  Our personal experience of connecting to  a Higher Power / Spiritual Source, separate from or part of a religious belief system. The spiritual realm is the overall framework of life, uniting all things in the universe, putting our personal experiences in a bigger context which allows for changing our perspective (it’s not all our us)

2a. Nurturing Parent (NP) – “Mother- and Father energy channel“: internalized positive parental messages (positive introjects), including those from other positive source figures (teachers, aunts, grandparents, neighbors); nurturing self and others like a parent, based on reality check from RA; putting myself in someone’s else’s shoes as well as recognizing

3a. The Inner Child (IC) – authentic Self – the natural essential Being within every person  (independent of the individual’s age), intuition, hunches (require constant reality check — otherwise they can turn into paranoid fantasies). Life affirming attitudes towards self and others, can sense and feel the difference between love and hate, childlike exploration of otherness. Capacity of authentic feelings like joy, anger, sadness, fear, curiosity or surprise. Fascinated by what life has to offer; embraces diversity (in people), otherness, aims to experience things rather than follow others’ thoughts and perceptions.

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4. Rational Adult (RA) – Our capacity for logical thinking & decision-making, being in the now & cooperation with others. It makes reality check, knows when things make sense – or not, assumes available resources are there for everyone’s benefit, & knows that together we can achieve better results.
● The RA is responsible for interfacing with the world to get our needs met AND interfering with the PP’s connection to the AP

2b. Pig Parent (PP) – The Negative Introject, not always overt or verbalized in the past. It’s our persecutory, fear-based attitudes, “you’ll never find a husband, you’re not pretty enough, you’re just a girl, you’re just like your dad… Men are all the same”.  Also: culturally informed prejudices, in-group / out-group thinking: I have to be IN to belong. Our perceived / assumed need to assert power over others.

3b. The Adapted Persona (AP) – Our adaptation to actual or perceived reality, as an emotional survival mechanism. If healthy allows us to be‘well-behaved’. If unhealthy (victim) it allows us to rationalize traumatic experiences or our role in them, which can impair our realistic appraisal of situations. It carries the conditioned responses to internalized negative parental messages: “When I sacrifice myself I will be well liked. When I stay cute (childlike), I won’t be held responsible for my actions….”

NEXT: Ego States – Basics – #1


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