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SITE: “Love Your Inner Child”
Reminder to MEN: While the following monologue by the Inner Child is obviously a girl talking to her female adult-self, the thoughts & feelings are just as true coming from your little boy being said to your adult-man, so please substitute ‘HIM / himself’ where it applies. You may not want to sound quite as mushy in places, so find the words that suit your own style, always keeping it positive, respectful & kind.
COMMENT: You may notice that the ‘Adult’ being talked to in this writing sounds sometimes like the Bad Parent & sometimes like an OK but weak Adult. Neither is fully the Healthy Adult / Loving Parent ego state we are aiming for, as outlined in many post on this blog. However, it’s also true that the child doesn’t always understand how adults think or what motivates them, but much of that can be explained with patience & love.
WRITER: Marie T Russell (1996) publisher of InnerSelf Magazine. Reprinted in full, as is.
The child cries out: “You adults make it so complicated! Give us a KISS. Yes! K.I.S.S. Keep it simple silly! Look inside yourself and invite your inner child to come out and play. Tell it that it’s ok. That you won’t scream at it anymore, won’t tell it to go away, or tell it that it’s not behaving appropriately. A-prop-riot-e-lie. That’s a big word that I learned from you. I know what a prop is. I know what a riot is. I know what a lie is. All those words together just don’t make any sense to me. Except that maybe behaving appropriately is a lie which becomes a prop for a riot. Did you ever think about that?
“You told me that it was not a-prop-riot-e behavior to dance in the street, or to sing with the birds, or to talk to the new people that I discovered on the street — you call those people strange-hers. You told me that it is not appropriate to be playful and childlike, and that I had to act your age. Well, I’ve got news for you. I’m an inner child and I am eternally young… so my age is whatever I choose. And today I choose to be five years old. So it is okay for me to sing and dance and love everyone I meet, because I know that God loves me, and that I am loved by everyone because God is in everyone.
“Do you know what is not appropriate? When you frighten me with your grown-up mixed-up beliefs. You have a picture of the world that I do not like, and you try to frighten me into doing what you want by telling me about your picture. Well, your picture is all wrong! Do you know why? Because your picture has a nasty God in it that punishes children and he gets very angry when they make a mistake. Well, my God loves me and loves you too. And my God does not frighten little children. Instead S/He provides birds that make music, fruit trees for food, sun for light and warmth, grass to roll on and lay on, animals to play with, and lots of other good things.
“Your picture is just a horror movie that you have made up, and I don’t watch horror movies. So if you insist on watching a horror picture, keep me out of it. Don’t even tell me about it. I don’t like to hear yucky stories. They make my belly and my heart hurt.
“But if you decide that you would like to watch and live a beautiful love story with me, then simply switch channel to the Inner Child channel. You and I can get to know each other and then we can have some fun as well as some love and peace together.
“You probably don’t even know where I am. Well, that’s because I’m scared of you and I’ve been hiding. I would suggest you tame me, just as if you were dealing with a scared kitten. Just imagine that your inner child is a scared kitty hiding under the bed. What do you do? Well, maybe you start talking gently and lovingly to it even though you can’t see it. And then maybe you bring it a saucer of warm milk (for me a saucer of unconditional love will do), and then you back off a little and keep talking softly.
“After a while, I may peek around the corner to make sure that you are really for real and that you won’t judge me and criticize me again… after all, you have done that a lot. And if I feel that you are really ready to love me and be nice to me, I’ll come out and we can talk and play.
“Another way that you can get in touch with me is to listen to what you call your intuition. Lots of times that is me telling you what would be great for us. So the next time you feel that it would be good for you to go for a walk, or to sing out loud, or to dance… pay attention. That’s probably me making my presence known. And the more you spend time doing the kind of things that I like, the more you will start feeling me there, and enjoying our time together.
“And keep talking to me. Soon you’ll start hearing me. You see, I talk very softly cause I’m little and sometimes I’m scared of you cause you’re big and you talk loud and gruff. So listen softly, and then you’ll hear me. And remember I love you and I really want to spend time with you. And I know that once you start spending time with me, you’ll be much happier than you are now. You’ll find yourself singing and maybe even taking silly little dance steps in the street. And the people around you will start smiling for no apparent reason when you walk by, because their own inner child will recognize me and will also pop up to the surface.
“Can I come out and play? I love you a whole bunch! I hope you’ll come visit often and invite me to hang out with you a lot too! We can really have a great time together, you and I.”
Your Inner Child
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