Enneagram – Type ‘DEFECTS‘ (Part 3c)


Vices 3cI JUST WANT EVERYTHING TO BE OK
so I don’t have to work on myself

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TYPE 7 – The ENTHUSIAST (also 6w7 & 8w7, somewhat)
FEAR : of being deprived and trapped in pain, so they avoid dedicating themselves to a person or situation, over-stimulate themselves & always live in the future
INTERNAL Story: “I must always be excited”

WEAKNESS : Reject any hint of seeing or admitting to the serious & painful sides of life – optimism is the ONLY option. Insist on putting off committing to anything, never ‘sitting still’
DEFENSIVE PATTERN: 7s ‘rationalize’ away uncomfortable experiences by re-framing issues as ‘not a problem’, or denying responsibility for their part in it. They avoid suffering & hang on to a self-image of being OK.
HIDE from others: “I’m not as happy as I appear to be.”
Gluttony / greed causes 7s to use their charm, humor & liveliness to ensure they’ll always have more than enough of the good things in life. They struggle to hold the facade of happiness & fun, while also feeling anxiety, doubt, disappointment & sadness – like everyone elseenthusiast

PROJECTION: 7s avoid pain & suffering, they project these elements out onto to others, who are experienced as being boring, dull, joyless, modest, negative, overly serious, pessimistic, restricted & unimaginative. 7s think it’s up to them to make everything OK, make others happy & envision an optimistic future, see the good in things, & give others something to laugh about

MANIPULATE by: distracting & entertaining others & being upbeat – so they can get their way, insisting that others meet their demands for pleasant stimulation & satisfaction
Create CONFLICT by: being demanding, distracted, escapist, excessive,
impatient, irresponsible, over-extended, restless, scattered, thrill-seeking

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TYPE 8 – The CHALLENGER (also 7w8 & 9w8, somewhat)
FEAR: of being harmed and controlled, & so are aggressively dominant, forcing their agenda and desires on others
INTERNAL Story: “I must always be powerful”

WEAKNESS : Are resentful and angry if they feel in any way defenseless, or believe someone is out to get them / take advantage. Insist on always being in charge
DEFENSIVE PATTERN: 8s use ‘denial’ to avoid vulnerability by re-directing energy by strength of will & controlling their environment, to maintain a self-image of being strong

HIDE from others: “I’m not as powerful or in control as I appear to be.” Lust / craving causes 8s to seek power, or at least the appearance of it. They believe they need to run everything, that without power & respect – from everyone – they won’t be able to protect themselves by having an impact on their environmentdominant/bossy

PROJECTION: 8s avoid any form of weakness, which they then project out onto others, who are experienced as ambivalent, bleeding hearts, naive, needy, overly dependent, phony, sentimental, unfair, weak. So it’s up to 8s to right all injustice, give others a dose of reality, protect & toughen others up

MANIPULATE by: throwing their weight around, bluff, make big gestures, dominate – demanding that others do as they say
Create CONFLICT by: being bad-tempered, blunt, confrontational, cynical, defiant, domineering, forceful, rageful, vengeful, willful

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TYPE 9 – The PEACEMAKER (also 8w9 & 1w9, somewhat)
FEAR: of loss of love and being abandoned, so they avoid being assertive, expressing their ideas or taking self-directed action
INTERNAL Story: “I must always be peaceful,”

WEAKNESS : Ignore things that need their attention – completely, or procrastinate until the last-minute. Insist on not noticing problematic issues and on staying neutral in unpleasant interactions with others
DEFENSIVE PATTERN: 9s use ‘narcotization’ to avoid conflict & maintain a self-image of being comfortable or harmonious. They get lulled into an emotional coma, or deadened to uncomfortable reality by adjusting / molding themselves to fit other people’s desires or demands​

HIDE from others: “I’m not as agreeable as I appear to be.”
Indifference keeps 9s from voicing any disagreement. They take the easy way out, avoiding discussion rather than face dissension. They hide their own desires, afraid of being disliked if they make too many (any) demands, or if their needs are different than those around thempeacemaker

PROJECTION: 9s avoid disagreements & conflict, so they project their own discomfort & anxiety out onto others, who are experienced as aggressive, conflicted, demanding, excluding, frantic, inconsistent and pushy. 9s think it’s up to them to pacify the world, bring everyone together, calm them down & make others lower their expectations.
Also, they avoid their own plans & desires, & then project that others
ignore them, don’t take them seriously & consider their plans & dreams unimportant

MANIPULATE by: ‘opting out’, resisting others, being indecisive or inattentive, & passive-aggressive
Create CONFLICT by: being complacent, emotionally unavailable, ineffectual, resigned, stubborn, unaware of their own anger, unrealistic

NEXT: Enneagram STRENGTHS (Part 1)

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