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DEF: Parenting styles are techniques that parents use to take care of their children.
Categories: Authoritative, Autocratic, Permissive & Neglectful (1 healthy, 3 unhealthy), with –
– Nurturing: Warm to Cold Affection
– More or less Demand & Control
Dimensions that are essential: Communication styles / Disciplinary strategies / Expectations of maturity & control / Warmth & nurturance (Diana Baumring – 1967)
Our basic identity is modified & shaped by our experiences with our parents – forming the structure of our adult personality. What we learned then is deeply implanted in our most primitive, powerful emotions as young children, when we were totally vulnerable to being molded.
Each of us is unique – different from everyone else, both as individuals & in relation to our family structure (gender, birth order, looks, interests….). And each parent has their own pre-set core Self & personality style. The mix & match is complex & not always harmonious.
Finding actual cause-and-effect links between specific parental actions & children’s resulting ‘personality’ is not simple or easy. Some children raised in dramatically different environments can later grow up to have remarkably similar personalities. Conversely, some who share a home & raised in the same environment can grow up to have astonishingly different personalities. (This will be due to the same or different Myers-Briggs, Enneagram, Astrology….) However, researchers have found correlations between the 4 categories & how children turn out.
Realistically, the Parental Style used is the one that each child experiences, not the one the adults ‘think’ they’re working from, or wish they could work from. Actually, most parents switch between all 4. The length & intensity of their interactions with children are based on emotional states, motivations, engagement, levels of stress, feeling fresh or tired…. at any given moment. But most parents always default to a favorite style, while only a few aspire to / work at living more in the healthy one (Authoritative).
The next 2 composite charts outline the 4 main types (Part 1 & 2)
NEXT: Parenting styles (Part 2)