PASSING ON HARD-WON LESSONS
from the writer of the
“TAKING the MASK OFF”
KILL YOUR FALSE SELF (Part 3)
a. The 33 points have been separated into categories, making it easier to absorb & remember.
b. The original number of each point has been kept so you can easily find it on the source post.
c. Each point is accompanied by how the author learned the lesson.
If interested in the expanded explanations, go to the above link.
1: If you are different, you will be separated and labeled.
It is ok if you are lonely and feel different. That does not mean something is wrong with you. It in fact is a sign you are on the right path if you do not fit in. People in power are not always the ones that are the wisest. It is ok to question authority.
5: Stay true to yourself and who you are, even if it upsets others and they reject you.
The person who suffers the most from being someone that others want you to be, is you. What is in your heart is all that’s real. Embrace who you are in your heart. Show the world that person. That person is beautiful.
30: Do not believe your own thoughts sometimes, they come from other people.
Your false self is just that, false. Acceptance comes first. You can change yourself, only after you accept yourself
2: If you speak the truth, be prepared to be attacked and ridiculed.
This is done to keep everyone in the “normal box.” To keep things under control, and to give everyone a mask. If you speak the truth through actions or words, people will be threatened. People who are threatened and in power will do whatever it takes to quiet you down. This is where the judgments, labels, and forced isolation come from
4: How well your message is received depends greatly on how you deliver the message.
The world is full of people in power who know nothing. If you feel what is going on is wrong, the way you respond and your attitude about it will determine if people listen.
7: It is not really about what you say but how you make other people feel.
If you believe in someone or something, do not let anyone or anything stand in your way. You may change someone’s life by believing in them.
14: Do not ever leave words unsaid.
Speak from your heart in each moment. Every moment is precious. Tell people the great you see in them. It takes nothing away from you. In fact, you grow from it.
24: Fierceness and toughness are not always loud.
Sometimes it is timing. It is not what you say but when you say it. The best way to know what time to say something and what advice to give if any, is easy, but easy only if you are truly listening. Do not force it, timing is everything
RECOVERY / GROWTH
12: When you are silent, still and deal with emotions, only then will the answers come.
Only then, can you move forward. The only way out of it is through it.
You cannot escape pain. Pain may not end up being a bad thing. Seemingly great things at the time can end up hurting you. Withhold judgment and let things play out. You can spend your whole life running from your pain. But then, at the end, you are tired, and you have spent your whole life running and not living.
15: It is hard to give love when you are in pain. But try it, and watch the miracle. If you give love away, love will come back. You will get what you need, if and when you are prepared for it. If you start to heal yourself and be good to others, regardless of your pain, then great things and even miracles begin to happen. You will be amazed at what the world gives you.
16: Where you end usually depends on where you start.
We need to equalize things for people that start off life with less opportunity. Those with privilege need to stop acting like they are on 3rd base because they hit a triple, when in fact they were born on 3base. We need to give everyone the same opportunity. Or stop claiming that we are the land of opportunity when we are not. We have to stop penalizing people because they have less resources
18: Living for others approval will kill you inside
Buying and accumulating things is not the answer. You will walk around depressed because you are living someone else’s dream for you.
20: When you make someone the center of your world for the moment you are with them, you can save their life. You can change the world by simply being present with someone in pain.
Taking time with people, and listening to them is what is important.
21: Lessons will repeat themselves until you finally learn what you are supposed to.
There are many different ways to try to escape. Other people, food, gambling, anger, self-harm, alcohol, drugs, and many more. I think I have tried them all.
29: Little things add up to big things
When trying to change things, patience is crucial. Systems don’t change fast. First, listen and observe. Pay attention to small things and details. You gain credibility and build up through small things. You lose credibility if all you do is fight. You don’t need to fight all day, every day. Pick your battles
31: If you want to help people, walk with them, not above them.
Stay in the senior slow lane of life. Let people rush by you if they want. Patience and walking with people is how you help them. Even if you get in a position of power, there is more corruption at the top.
NEXT: 33 Things I’ve learned (Part 2)