Ennea Type 5 – Flaws in us ALL


type 5

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Type 5 COWARDICE because of CDs (#6)
— about intrusion: Think that others are going to invade your time, space & privacy
— about feelings: Fearful of expressing emotions in real-time, & highly uncertain about what you do feel or even how to know it
— about attachments: Believe you must not be attached to anything or anyone, because if you are, your energy will be sapped & your autonomy threatened

Type 5 FLATTERY (#2)
— Think there is something wrong with you for not liking “small talk” when others seem to like it just fine (thinking there is something “right” with others)
— Continue a conversation about a topic you have little interest in
— Decide to not share information you actually do have, being sure you don’t know enough about the topic, yet still listening to others who know a lot less than you about it

Type 5 LAZINESS / Indolence (#9)
— Confuse thinking with feeling, so you don’t pay much attention to your emotional life
— Don’t consider your feelings much at all. In fact, think that they have limited value, & that it takes too much energy to figure them out
— Believe that only their minds matter, so ignore (be indolent about) physical sensations that are a source of important information

Type 5 MOODINESS (melancholy & resulting separation) (#4)
— Think you’re depleted, drained of sufficient resources & life force
— Believe you don’t have truly deep relationships like others seem to
— See yourself as an island adrift from the major continent of people

Type 5 PLANNING – as compulsion (#7)
— How to prevent draining situations, by limiting intrusions, demands on your time and energy or emotionally charged interactions
— Strategize ways to overcome potentially dangerous situations

Type 5 RESENTMENT (#1)
— Focus on the intrusiveness and aggressiveness of others
— Imagine / assume harmful actions you think others are up to
— Wonder why someone has the right to make demands on you for personal information, your time….

Type 5 STINGINESS (#5)resources
— with resources & knowledge: Think the world has limited resources so you have to conserve almost everything
— with interpersonal engagement: Believe you don’t need or want to fully engage with others because they’ll will drain you or want too much
— with sharing: Believe you have to withhold information about yourself with almost everyone (except the very few you trust), otherwise your privacy will be violated

Type 5 VANITY (#3)
— Think that others are inferior for having too many needs, being dependent / not autonomous
— Believe you have a superior intellect
— Think that others’ expressing of emotions is inferior to your own reliance on reason, logic, emotional self-containment & detachment

Type 5 VENGEANCE (#8)
What sets you off is thinking someone has –
— violated your privacy, such as breaking a confidence
— kept information from you, especially if it’s important to you
— lied, such as said they’d deliver work on time and then didn’t
— made unreasonable or not-agreed-to demands on you

REACTION: think & plan how to neutralize that person or keep them at a distance
— strategizing how to get that person removed and harmless (if they’ve really scared you or violated a deeply held value)
GROWTH: Ask “ Am I expressing my real feelings in the moment?”

ALSO
Type 5 DISTORTED LENS
Too-far: missing the nuances of what’s close up.
Lesson: 5s remind us that when we create too much distance, we lose seeing the finer detail, including ourselves & how we interact with a situation.

Type 5 HANGING ON
Hold on to:
— to being autonomous, needing too much privacy, using up limited space and resources
— and under-explored feelings and needs
Why: to maintain your ‘sense of self as a person who’ doesn’t need to rely on anyone or anything other than yourself
Let go of: your false belief in scarcity (of energy, resources….)

Type 5 OFF-BALANCE
— By someone standing too close for too long
— Having to put out energy and effort when already feeling depleted
— Expected to share personal information when you’re not clear why this matters or what don't feelsomeone will do with it

Type 5 MAYA (delusion)
You think that you either don’t know or don’t experience your emotional states, when in fact your emotions are extremely pure

Type 5 WORRY
“What do they want from me? How can I get away from this? Why am I feeling so drained and depleted? Why can’t I express myself?”

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