Ennea Type 8 – Flaws in us ALL


type 8 

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Type 8 COWARDICE because of Cognitive Distortions (#6)
— Re. asking for support: believe that only the weak ask for support, & that others aren’t strong enough to support you anyway
— Re. appearing weak: think that showing any vulnerability or anxiety is a chink in your armor, which others will take advantage of
— Re. being completely honest: think that you’re always truthful, even though it’s not always true (nor possible)

Type 8 FLATTERY (#2)
— Think strategically about how to “win over” potential opponents, by flattering them & appealing to their ego or self-interest
— Think it’s better to not say something that could be construed as negative, therefore using deletion as a form of flattery
— Act completely interested in someone then abruptly or completely withdraw – a good hint you weren’t sincerely interested in the first place

Type 8 LAZINESS – Indolence (#9)
You don’t appear indolent – in fact you often seem to be in touch with reality, but…like all of us, you can also:
— Obsess about whatever you lust after (8’s excess) as a way of avoiding feeling vulnerable
— Believe your ‘truth’ or sense of reality is accurate, so can be too lazy to think through all other possibilities that are valid
— Go into mental denial that something’s wrong, even your health

Type 8 MOODINESS (melancholy & resulting separation) (#4)
— Convinced there isn’t anyone who can or will truly support you
— Believe you can handle everything, big & small, so when you can’t, you can get lost in mental gloom & doom
— Think about the tremendous suffering & abuse in the world, which you believe you should be able to stop from happening

Type 8 PLANNING – as compulsion (#7)
— THINK about how to take charge
— how to not be taken advantage of
— how to get things under control
— how to expand you territory

Type 8 RESENTMENT (#1)
— be disgusted with & dismissive of someone who you believed in – when they waste, misuse or not use – their potential
— confused & obsessed about something important you can’t make happen
— outraged when you’re not in control of something you believe you have a right to be in charge of

Type 8 STINGINESS (#5)vulnarable
— about sharing power, because of assuming it is limited. So if others have it, your own power is diminished
— about sharing your vulnerabilities, believing if you do, others will take advantage of it
— about your protectiveness, thinking you should & can protect others from abuse. But are highly selective about who you choose to ‘help’, & have trouble seeing when some of your behavior is abusive

Type 8 VANITY (#3)
— Think you’re stronger than other people
— Believe you can make happen anything you want to
— Think that your truth is The Truth

Type 8 VENGEANCE (#8)
What sets you off is thinking someone has –
— stepped on the down-trodden
— illegitimately challenged your authority
— not taken responsibility for your own negative behavior
— been untruthful and untrustworthy

REACTION: think about how to gain control & authority, as a way to dis-empower the other person and put them in their place
GROWTH: Ask “Am I sharing my feelings of vulnerability and showing my softer sides to both myself and others?”

ALSO
Type 8 DISTORTED LENS
One-dimensional – only seeing one version of reality
Lesson: 8s remind us that a limited view of the truth/reality usually ignores all the other possibilities. Assuming we know exactly what’s happening doesn’t make it so, because Reality happens simultaneously as well as sequentially

Type 8 HANGING ON (Need to let go)
Hold on to: avenging wrongs done by others, being able to move mountains through your extraordinary will, energy & power, always being in command or in control
Why: To maintain your ‘sense of self as a person who’ is so strong you can protect anyone you choose, never showing weakness or vulnerability
Let go of: the belief you have to be strong and big at all times and under all circumstances

Type 8 OFF-BALANCE
— by someone standing up to you without backing down
— feeling highly vulnerable & not have the strength to hide itbe defended
— feeling exhausted and depleted

Type 8 MAYA (delusion)
Think that you don’t dare let your guard down because if you do, something terrible will happen to you. Most of the time – not.

Type 8 WORRY
“Who’s really strong enough to help or support me? What if I’m too strong? What if I’m not strong enough? What advantage will they take if I show my vulnerability? Why did they let me down?”

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