Psychological DISORDERS – Psychopathy (Part 5b)

I HAVE TO STAY AWAY
from the ones who don’t care

PREVIOUS: Disorders #5a

SITEs: “Confessions of a Sociopath…..”

• When a Christian meets a Sociopath
(excellent info for anyone spiritually oriented, no matter of what ‘faith’)

3. PERSONALITY DISORDERS

4a. SOCIOPATHS (Ss) (cont.)
(S) GENERAL
• an excellent story-teller, presenting self as the hero with high standards
• can easily manipulate good-hearted but unwary people into feeling sorry for them / worried & afraid / guilty / confused / ‘crazy’
• easily bored & needs constant stimulation
• fun, entertaining, super polite when meeting people
• gives the impression everyone owes them (you)

• has several short-term relationships or marriages
• impulsive, irresponsible, sexually promiscuous
• is a user, taking a lot from & giving back very little
• lacks realistic long-term goals, always scheming but often failing
• never takes responsibility, & turns the blame back on others
• takes advantage of kindness & empathy, never apologizes
AND : sometimes you suspect they don’t really care about you!

SITEs: “S. def & signs” // “4 Phrases S. use to kill your confidence

(S) EMOTIONALLY
• are volatile – prone to emotional outbursts, including fits of rage
• can be too anxious, leading some to isolate themself
• can feel some caring & guilt, but aren’t strong enough to prevent their impulsivity & erratic behavior (unreliable)
Many writers say that Ss can’t make emotional connections at all, & this is true to some extent, but is usually when Ss& PSs are lumped together. Ss do not have respect for society in general, & won’t feel guilty when harming a stranger or breaking the law in any form.

However, some Ss can become attached & develop loyalty to a like-minded person or group (mentor, gang, parent they’re symbiotic with – no matter how abusive….), so the S. may feel remorse if they do something to hurt those special ones.

(S) SOCIALLY
Sociopaths’ disturbing traits may have been visible from childhood in acts of cruelty to animals, property or people. They make up about 4% of the world’s population – individuals who ruin lives, causing extreme emotional trauma – simply because they don’t care. They disrupt relationships, creating emotional & financial crises. At worst they perpetrate vandalism, theft, rape or murder.

Sociopaths know exactly what they’re doing & know the difference between right & wrong – technically – but can’t judge the morality of a situation because their inner ‘compass’ is so skewed. They’re social predators who exploit just about everyone they deal with, altho’ most never kill anyone. They have no heart, no conscience & no remorse. Even tho’ their attitude toward others is not necessarily malicious, the outcome of they behavior is, since they treat people as objects.

The very clever ones make great con-men & women, able to act sincere in ways that fool others into believing they both have the same values. Instead, they’re conniving, deceitful, often pathological liars, despite seeming trustworthy & sincere. Without empathy, they take no responsibility for their actions, & can easily turn the tables, without guilt or shame, accusing the other person for causing their own misery.

They are great actors who can mimic emotion & empathy, masters at superficial pleasantness & manipulation – but instinctively rule by fear, at home or at work. This is why they can be so successful in their career – it helps to look the part while not really caring about other people’s feelings. Alternating between being charming & terrorizing, family or work staff are too intimidated to point out their abusiveness or to stand up to them. It’s theorized that the top of the corporate food chain has a higher than average number of sociopathy than in the general population. (MORE…..)

Since sociopaths (& psychopaths) are absolutely sure there’s nothing wrong with them, they are not ‘curable’ – so it’s a waste of time to try. The only option in dealing with them is to insist on putting limits on their actions, OR just staying out of their away.
SITEs: “How to beat a S. at their own dating game”
• “6 things to know about dating a sociopath”
• 5 Things Ps & Narc. do in conversation

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4b. PSYCHOPATHS – MAIN TRAIT
• “The LIE (the more elaborate, the better) is the primary weapon used to snare their victims, & the inner justification for their right to cause harm. (like Bernie Madoff)
To a PS, lying is as easy as breathing, since they have no physiological reaction to thinking or expressing falsehoods (no blushing, heart racing, sweating). When caught, they just create more ‘stories’. They can be Narcissist, Victim, Con-artist or Professionals (politics, religion, sales….. )” Continued in 5c
SEE posts “Red Flags from PSs”